- “I think what Garfunkel here is trying to say is that you should all take a second, think seriously about what's really bothering you, and then have a big group unbunching of your panties.”— Dr. Kelso
"My Tormented Mentor" is the fifteenth episode of Scrubs' third season. Dr. Kelso gets complaints from the nurses that male staff are making sexually harassing comments. Dr. Cox is finding it hard to cope with Ben's death, and having Jordan's friends around makes it worse. Dr. Grace Miller (Bellamy Young), a new female attending surgeon, is strong and self-confident, which is the complete opposite of what the other surgeons wanted and expected.
Two weeks after Ben's death, Dr. Cox is still having a hard time getting over it. Jordan seems fine and tries to get him to clean up. Her best friends came for the funeral and still haven't left. Jordan brings her friends to the hospital, and Dr. Cox sends them off to the bar. J.D. mentions that Jordan seems to be doing OK. Dr. Cox himself refuses to talk about Ben. J.D. follows him around and pressures him to talk about his feelings. Eventually, Dr. Cox says he is mainly annoyed that Jordan's friends are still around.
J.D. walks in on Jordan's friends changing and tells them they should leave. They say he just wants to kiss Dr. Cox's ass. Jordan catches J.D. kicking out her friends and isn't too happy about it. Cox tells J.D. not to stick his head into his affairs anymore, and J.D. says he won't, but only because he feels "a little guilty": he wrote four complaints about Cox's calling male residents by girl's names, so Cox has to sit through Carla's sexual harassment seminar. Cox takes J.D. to Jordan to tell her it was J.D.'s own idea to kick her friends out. But Cox also adds that he doesn't understand why her friends are still there, and it makes Jordan worried.
Dr. Kelso gets complaints from the nurses that they are being sexually harassed, and he tells them to "unbunch" their panties and not make a big deal out of it. But after Ted researches the hospital's legal liability concerning sexual harassment, Dr. Kelso admits to Carla that they need to do something about it. He decides that Carla should run a sexual harassment seminar, mandatory for anyone who gets more than three complaints in a complaint box. When the box is checked, Todd has 37 complaints about sexual harassment, and Dr. Kelso himself has five.
Turk has a new attending surgeon, Dr. Grace Miller, and he is excited. She introduces herself and makes sure everyone knows she is very self-confident. The surgeons are shocked, as they had expected an innocent, helpless woman. At the cafeteria, Dr. Miller tells Turk and Todd that they surprised her by not sucking at surgery, but that she is concerned about Todd's disrespect for women. Turk tells Todd to lay off Dr. Miller, because it's hard for her as a female surgeon. She overhears their conversation and kicks Todd off the surgical team. Turk listens to music in the O.R., and Dr. Miller stops the sound system. She scolds him for thinking she is a little girl who needs him to defend her. Turk says he has nothing to apologize for. Later, Elliot chats with Dr. Miller. She is impressed by Dr. Miller's emotional strength but tries to persuade her that Turk is not sexist. It doesn't work and actually makes Elliot think about some stuff herself. Elliot tells Turk she loves Dr. Miller and would do anything to have an attending like her, who doesn't let her gender hold her back. She asks Turk who he thinks makes a better surgeon, a man or a woman? He smiles, knowing all too well what the answer is for him.
At the sexual harassment seminar, Dr. Cox argues that Dr. Kelso is just a man of a different era, that Todd's behavior must come from his childhood, and that in general, it is hard to know "what's kosher." Carla says they should step into women's shoes one day and think about how they would feel. Dr. Cox then realizes why Jordan's friends are still around. He goes home and asks if it's because he has been wallowing in self-pity without considering how she feels. She says she misses Ben and cries. Turk apologizes to Dr. Miller, and she tells him to scrub up because he is a decent surgeon after all. Dr. Kelso teaches Todd how to look but not touch.
- The surgeons imagine that Dr. Miller is Marilyn Monroe.
- J.D. imagines that Jordan's friends are vampires.
- Janitor speaks Korean to Ted while holding a young lady in his arms.
- Janitor pops out of nowhere and clotheslines J.D., who is running from Dr. Cox, just after J.D. realizes he hasn't seen Janitor all day.
J.D.'s Girls Name
- “Why don't you grow a pair, Sally!”— Dr. Cox
- Annika, used by Dr. Cox.
- “Let me go ahead and tee this up for you, there, Annika: We are all going to die someday.”— Dr. Cox
- Judy, used by Dr. Cox.
- “May I ask you something there, Judy? Do you have any idea what it's like to have three angry, underfed women tear you a new one for a full hour?”— Dr. Cox
- Bellamy Young as Dr. Grace Miller
- Carter Jenkins as Young Todd Quinlan
- Julie Warner as Allison
- Embeth Davidtz as Maddie
- Lawrence H. Toffler as Todd's father
- "Roc Ya Body, Mic Check 1, 2" by M.V.P. featuring Stagga Lee
- "Here Comes the Hammer" originally by Hammer, performed by Donald Faison
- "Can't Erase It" by Lena Anderssen
- "I'm With You" by Avril Lavigne
- Replaced by "Can't Erase It" by Lena in later releases.
- “ I'm Dr. Miller. A few quick things: Don't talk while I'm talking, never utter the phrase "It's Miller time", and I don't like the smell of cologne in my operating room. Now, I'd like to take a minute to listen to any questions or comments that any of you might have, and then after this minute I never want to hear from any of you — ever, ever, ever again. Anyone?”— Grace Miller
- “Um... I'm allergic to shellfish?”— Turk
- “Um... I'm allergic to shellfish?”— Turk
- “Here's the tour: This is where the patients enter, upstairs is where they go to die, and down in the basement is where we slide their cold, dead bodies into the wall. Oh, and that's the gift shop.”— Dr. Cox
- “You shall not feast on me!”— J.D.
- “Elliot, this woman doesn't like me. It could keep me from becoming the youngest chief of surgery in history, which could keep me from curing paralysis, which could keep me from having my birthday be a national holiday! And everyone knows I hate to work on my birthday!”— Turk
- “I hate to quote my mother, but Dr. Miller is so uptight she could use a pitcher of martinis and an afternoon on top of a smooth-chested pool-boy.”— Elliot
- “Remember, we look, but we don't touch.”— Dr. Kelso
- Janitor mentioned having a wife in previous episodes, yet he went to singles night. (Though he could have just gone for fun.)
- In Dr. Kelso's flashback, he stands admiring a passing nurse and smacks her bottom with his clipboard, saying "Foxy, Enid! Hot mama." In earlier episodes, it is established that his wife's name is Enid, so this is apparently her.
- The title of the episode may be a reference to the early Season One episode "My Mentor", the first episode in which J.D. attempts to console Perry at his apartment.
- The character of Dr. Miller was intended to be a female Dr. Cox.